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People Over the Age of 55 Make Up 20% of Online Dating Visitors

In January, 20% of all visits to online dating sites were from singles over 55 — not much lower than the largest online dating group, ages 45 to 54, which made 25% of all such dating-related visits in the same month. Match.com  has seen its over-55 membership almost double in the past two years.  (source www.weekend.com)

Love And Respect Recap

Women need love like air. Men need respect like air.

When a man feels respected, he acts in a loving manner. This makes the woman feel loved, and she reacts in a respectful manner.  Guys this means you LISTEN - not just hear your spouse.  Ladies, this mean you respect his job and his drive to provide. Check out the book in the Dates From Hell Bookstore

Jennifer’s Stories

I went on a date who brought his date along. It turns out he married, and liked to talk with his fists.

Later Jennifer found a nice guy with a job, goals, aspirations, no kids, and gets along with his family. She advises, “Don’t meet them alone, and go to a public place.”

John’s Stories

I went on a date and this woman listed the past 30 “relationships” she had. She had a website and I was surprised to find out that our one date made her list of “relationships.”

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Diane and I just got back from Chicago where we attended the love and respect conference. It was awesome. We will be talking about it in the future. One of the things that I found odd, is that many men do not wear a wedding ring (as I always had mine on when I was married, and even now Diane and I wear claddagh rings). The bad news is we learned that women thrive in an environment where they feel unconditional love, and total commitment. One of the ways you can show your total commitment is to wear your wedding ring.

I know the blue collar guys may not want to wear their rings at work for safety purposes. That is completely understandable, but if you want to “score some points” put your ring on the minute you get home. [click to continue…]

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Today we examine a real profile. We all need to realize that this is your first impression, and you are blowing it with bad grammar, typos, and cute text when you say things like “i can wait 4our date.” This makes you appear uneducated, or too lazy to type out the words. When we look at sites, one of the things people are looking for is people that “Appear normal.”

Here are some common examples that we found:

Example one:

People that do not capitalize the word “I” as in “i like hiking and fishing.” This makes you appear very dumb.

Example two:

Spelling errors we saw included “theyr” instead of “they’re” and “suite” instead of “suit.” If you have microsoft word, run the grammar and spelling checker.

Solution:

Have friend or family member (someone who knows you) read your profile. I (Dave) am living proof that you can’t proof read your own stuff. If Diane used a red pen to catch my typos, this page would look like a murder had happened.

More Personal Profile Tips

Talk about what you are looking for in a potential date. Talk about yourself and what you like. Don’t be negative such as “High Maintenance Women Need Not Apply.” Instead say you are looking for an easy going woman. Tell people what you want instead of what you don’t want. We get into this topic in more detail in our free Online Dating Guide. If you need help with yor profile (and you feel weird asking a friend) there are Personal Profile Services like Profile Helper and Dating-Profile.com listed in our Online Dating Resources

This is the picture we were talking about where Erich looks like he is hanging off the edge of the table. You can read his profile here. Not everybody at Yahoo Personals is this “unique.”

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Happy Anniversary to Us

Today is our two year anniversary. If today wasn’t special enough, Diane got a new (better) job today. Life is good. We are very blessed.

Online Dating is a Reflection of Life

JR from www.llmlive.com commented that “I am however a psychologist (not practicing) who has told many a person that online dating has become a syndrome of destruction. I hope to hear something that changes my mind. ” To this I give the example of main street.

If you go down main street you will find good things like groceries, book stores, shoe stores, and things that make you a better person. You will also find tobacco, alcohol, and porn, which can lead you down a wrong path. This is the way it is with online dating. There are some sites designed for sex, and there are some designed for love. We have chosen not to promote “booty call” types of sites. It’s not our style, and not what we are about. We want to help people find love.

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Online Dating For Dummies

I was reading Online Dating For Dummies and they were talking about some of the secrets to online dating. These included:

• Have a good sense of who you are ( I call that know where are you now).
• Have a good sense of what you are looking for in a date/mate (I call that know where you want to go).
• Have a reliable internet connection ( You need reliable transportation to get from point A to B).
• Read the prospects’ profile carefully. ( People hopefully have taken time to create their profile. The least you can do is read it).
• Engage in e-mail to get additional information ( I agree much easier and safer ).
• If you discover you’re not a match, it’s easy to disengage. ( If there isn’t a easy fit at first, it’s not going to get easier later). [click to continue…]

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Jessica Has a Date From Hell

Jessica recently ended a relationship and decided to give online dating a try. She didn’t put a picture on her profile, and neither did the guy who replied to her. This man became very aggressive, and created a “Date from Hell.” Guys don’t be pushy, and take things slow. If your date is not ready to move forward, then don’t force it. Don’t force a hug while you’re at it. He also starting asking about love at first sight via email after the first public meeting (triggering the creep meter).

Brenda and Joe’s Success with Yahoo Personals

Brenda was nervous about signing up for Yahoo Personals, so she started with the 7 day trial. She was surprised by the number of people who met her criteria. She met Joe and said, “It’s strange when I think about how reluctant I was to sign-up for Yahoo! Personals — and what I would have missed out on if I hadn’t.” Here are some of Joe’s tips

Give online dating some time; it may take a while to “get circulated.”

Be careful giving out personal information until you get to know someone. (try our sponsor www.mydatingnumber.com )

Use several good recent photographs. It’s true a picture really is worth a thousand words. Also, rotate the main photo every other week or at least every few weeks. People may give you a second glance because of a new picture.

Be as selective as you want to be. If you wouldn’t consider dating a person with a particular characteristic then refine your search to exclude it. While you may not end up with a list of 1000, the people on your list of 20 will meet your criteria.

Dave and Diane’s Online Dating Advice

Unfortunately Jessica has only been trying for two weeks. What this experience has shown her is she’s not ready to date. We let Jessica know that if you don’t get any replies back to your emails, that it may have nothing to do with you. In some cases people that sign up for free can’t reply back to any emails they receive (this is to motivate them to sign up). Consequently, you may be contacting someone who has no tools to reply back (don’t take it personal).

When meeting someone always meet in a public place. To keep the things casual, meet during the day. You may want to tell someone where you are going, and who you are going to meet.

Unfortunately after only two weeks and 1 date, Jessica has decided she’s not ready to date. This may not necessarily be the case. When you start this process, you have to set your expectations realistically and know that not every date is going to be prince/princess charming. There are going to be some weird people out there!

Online dating is not for the faint of heart. Don’t give up because of one bad experience. At least you have a fun story to tell at work. Don’t give up!

Call The Dates From Hell Show

Call 866-97- DATES to chime in on the discussion. We look forward to working with everyone as you look for love.

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Why are we starting this site? There are a couple of reasons:

1. We (Diane and I) found each other. We know that finding someone online is possible. It’s not always easy (for tips and insights, sign up for our email list and get our free ebook). We are here to help others avoid some of the mistakes we made.

2. A friend of Diane’s just left a relationship and decided to try the “online dating thing.” She met someone a bit strange, and to get to the punchline “She didn’t know which eye to stare at.” This made us both feel for our friend, and also realize all the help we could provide to her (how to spot creeps, princesses, and more).

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